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Get Your Hands Off My Fear Body!

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in Erin's Diatribes/The Todd's Tastes

      When the economy first tanked and there was emotional pandemonium everywhere you looked, The Todd and I called one of the smartest therapists we knew to appear on our radio show and address what everyone was feeling. Teri Holleran is a tiny thing with huge eyes and an even bigger laugh–which she made us do several times doing the interview. But she said something interesting: that nearly the entire nation was inside what she called our “Fear Bodies.”

     Fear Bodies. You know that feeling you get at three in the morning when you can’t shut your mind off and you’re picturing your family homeless on the street? Fear Body. When you scream at your husband for buying a $50.00 shirt and tell him that “I hope you’re happy! Now we won’t be able to pay our mortgage and we’ll lose the house and your children will STARVE!” Fear Body. When someone hits you up for a charitable donation and you’re suddenly, unreasonably furious at them because “dangit! Maybe YOU can throw money around but I have a family to feed!”
     Fear Body.
     All of our secret terrors and horror of deprivation rise to the surface and we can no longer think any further than our own little island.
     I’ve been thinking about this a lot this week because I’ve received some angry comments here about my posts. When picking up school supplies, I’ve suggested getting more for your school, or maybe buying more sleepers and diapers when on sale and dropping them off at the local homeless shelter. One Mrs. Anonymous (ALWAYS my favorite kind of correspondent) accused me of being “holier than thou–stop trying to make us feel less than you because you can afford all this charity crap (her words) and we can’t!”
     Mrs. Anonymous, you are totally in your Fear Body, sister. Not mad at you, because we’ve all been there. I’ve lost my job in radio just once, and 20 years later I still can feel that sick sense of terror and inadequacy. While I searched for a new one, I volunteered at a homeless shelter for women and children for 2 months. I’d like to tell you that I have NEVER EVER complained about my lot in life again. This of course, would be wildly untrue. But I did learn what those on the fringes figured out long ago. They’ve been there before. They might be there again. But they WILL climb out and do everything they can for those left behind.
     Any charity will tell you the most generous benefactors are those on the lower economic levels.  Why would they risk their limited funds? Why would they offer when they have so little themselves? They’ve left their Fear Body.
     I know everyone’s funds are tight. I juggle bills every payday and try to figure out what I can pay in two weeks and not today. But the clutching of whatever meagre means we have to ourself lead to something worse–a paucity of the soul. I have a former radio partner who who used to scoop the tip money off the table when we’d have lunch together. (Editor’s note: I found this out after noticing a marked cooling in the attitude of our regular server and watching him in action when I went back for a forgotten sweater.) Would that 5 bucks really make the difference in the life of a man who made $75,000 a year? I dunno, but he was very fond of saying that HE was his favorite charity.
     In the end, I believe that emotional deprivation and lack of generosity will cause us far more harm than the financial sort. I pitched into one of my ranting moments during our last bill-paying and The Todd tried to calm me with an arm about my shoulders. I reared back, hissing, “get your hands OFF my Fear Body!” He laughed himself sick.
      But maybe we ALL need to be shaken out of our Fear Bodies.  Give what you can, even if it’s just a smile or a joke. Give every day. I am the LAST person on the planet morally qualified to tell anyone what they can or can’t afford to do for their fellow man. But I will tell you that this little practice of daily sharing has made me leave my Fear Body. Hopefully, for good.
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Costumes and clothes on sale at the Children’s Place!

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in Clearance sales, Coupons, Coupons for Baby, Coupons for Kids

childrens place…Here’s an excerpt from Baby Cheapskate’s excellent post about the Children’s Place sale:

“Take an extra 30% off already marked down fall styles at The Children’s Place. Look for prices to drop to about 50% off around mid October. Of course, the selection’s better now. Halloween costumes are 30% off, too. $5 flat-rate shipping.

Updated: New 15% off coupon code: HA99. Good through 10/31. You can also save $20 off an order of $80 or more with code PDA99 through 11/1.”

Thanks, Baby Cheapskate!

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New Earth’s Best coupons!

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in Coupons, Coupons for Baby, Coupons for Kids, Organic Coupons & Deals

coupons_formulaThere’s some exceptionally good ones–including $5.00 off their formula.  Click! http://www.earthsbest.com/promos/promos.php?cat=coupon

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Are you a fan of the smelly candles?

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in Bogo free

yankee-candleI too, am a fan.  Here’s a BOGO free offer from Yankee Candles:  Buy One, Get One Free large Yankee candle coupon  There’s a $5 flat shipping on their website, but you can also get an in-store coupon! There are only 4 days left to use this deal. If used on-line, use code: “XF910A7″.

Thanks, Seattle Moms Deal Finder!

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It’s free movie night, baby!

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in Free-Bees Giveaways, Free-or Cheap-Family Fun

blockbuster_express_logoDo you have Blockbuster Express close by? (Check HERE )  Here’s 2 free-bee rental codes.

Through October 2nd,  code GE99A2

Through October 5th, you can use code GW99A5

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“It’s The Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown”…

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in Rebates

great_pumpkin_cb…is a perennial favorite at the Collard’s.  (Editor’s note: actually, Zachie likes watching it year-round, something about the candy, I suspect.)  Get $3 off rebate form HERE when you buy the DVD and Skippy Peanut Butter.

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Halloween candy on the cheap!

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in Coupons, Coupons for Kids, Coupons for Mommy

nestle_couponsHere’s some coupons from Nestle:

$1/1 printable coupon for Nestle candy 11.5 oz bag or larger

$1/1 printable coupon for Wonka candy 11.5oz or larger

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Free-bee pass to Sam’s Club

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in Free-Bees Giveaways

sam's_club_free_passWanna see if you like it?  Here’s a free-bee one-day pass to go in, look around, buy some stuff. http://www.samsclubmemberservices.com/invitationtoshop.aspx?c=kc10591

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Free subscription to “Rouge” magazine!

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in Coupons for Mommy, Free-Bees Giveaways

magYou can still sign up for a Free Subscription to Rouge Magazine–it’s got piles of really good girly coupons, my fall issue has these…
 
$1.00 CoverGirl product
$1.00 Clairol Nice ‘n Easy
$1.00 Secret Flawless product
$1.00  Head & Shoulders product
$1.00 Clairol Natural Instincts

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Free Wall Cling

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in Free-Bees Giveaways

simplistickHave you seen Simplistick Wall Stickers?  They’re so cute!  You can click here HERE to to get a free cling!

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What do YOU think?

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in What's YOUR opinion?

12661

Should our children Pray in School? Answer and WIN?

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Up to $15 bucks back from SC Johnson!

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in Rebates

glade SC Johnson has a great new $5 Rebate–get $5 back by mail when you purchase any of the 3 SC Johnson Products below:
• Ziploc
• Glade
• Windex
• Scrubbing Bubbles
• Pledge
• Shout
• Fantastik
• Drano
• Raid
• Off
• Saran
• Nature’s Source

Sneaky inside tip:  You can do this rebate 3 times per household!  That means…let’s do the math, carry the three, add the five… a total of $15 in rebates back!  Each $5 rebate needs to be mailed in separately.  Thanks, Hip 2 Save!

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Coupons.com has reset!

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in Coupons

coupons_logoNew month, and there’s some great new coupons:

$1.00 off Gold n’ Plump chicken

$1.00 off Welch’s juice

.75 cents off Challenge butter

.75 cents any brand of yogurt

$1.00 off any brand of cheese

Stop by!  http://www.kqzyfj.com/click-3278587-10421874

Sneaky inside tip: use your back button and print each coupon twice!

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$10.00 bucks from Kellogg’s!

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in Free-Bees Giveaways, Rebates

corn Kellogg’s $10 Bonus Bucks Promotion starts today: buy 3 specially marked Kellogg’s cereals and get $10 bonus buck to spend on electronics, toys, sporting goods, books, movies and such.  There’s a list of all the participating retailers here.

Once you purchase 3 specially marked cereals, you’ll find promotional codes printed inside of the packages. Once you’ve rounded up 3 codes, you’ll just need to go here, enter your Birthday and then enter the three one time use codes. Codes must be entered all at once to qualify for the $10 certificate. Your Bonus Bucks certificate will arrive via 1st Class US Mail in approximately 4 to 6 weeks.

To redeem your Bonus Bucks, go to any of these retailers and make a purchase.

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Happy Birthday, Libra!

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in Free-Bees Giveaways

bdaycakeAll these people want to party with you! Who knew?  Enjoy!  http://www.heyitsfree.net/2006/10/03/birthday-freebies/

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What’s YOUR opinion?

Posted by Erin (and sometimes The Todd) on Oct 1, 2009 in What's YOUR opinion?

12633Do you believe in the Afterlife? Answer and Win!
http://lm.logicalmedia.com/z/12633/CD8038/

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